My Lowest Point

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These pictures were taken on the Scentsy Incentive Trip in 2015 to Tenerife.  I was at the heaviest weight I ever had been at almost 270lbs.  Before the end of that year I had this list of health problems:

-Plantar Fasciitis in my left foot making it very very painful to walk
-High Cholesterol
-Sciatica in my left hip
-Severe Acid Reflux (Had to Take Medicine)
-Depression
-Anxiety (This particular Scentsy trip I was so anxious about it I was throwing up 2 weeks before)
-High Triglycerides
-Sleep Apnea (Had to wear a CPAP machine)
-Borderline Pre-Diabetic (I was like .2 away)
-Heart Palpitations
-Gynae Issues
-Poor Circulation
-Anaemic
-Anti phospholipid Antibodies (No cure)

Looking at this list and especially having to wear the CPAP machine upset me so much (I HATED SLEEPING WITH THAT MACHINE) that I knew I had to make a change.  Everything was falling apart in my Scentsy Biz around this time too--go figure.  I had dipped down from Director to Superstar Consultant which was I found devastating and after earning 4 incentive trips in a row I didn't earn the next one.  I was pretty freaking upset and couldnt get out of bed for weeks.  Tenerife I actually was getting anxiety attacks about two weeks before because I was so worried about being around the other Scentsy consultants as I didn't feel good enough being around them.   I felt worse when I didn't earn the next incentive cause I was using these incentives as a way to feel better about myself and to try and tell myself that I wasn't failing in Scentsy.  But you can earn these incentives and actually not have very strong foundations in your business.  You can earn these incentives without actually putting your team members first and having a heart of service.  My shame and comparison got to the point where I couldn't even see any photos of non related Scentsy posts on Facebook (even like pics of their cat) without bursting into tears.  I tried to unfollow people's posts and still kept people on my friends list but things would still pop up in my feed or I'd go and actually search for them to see what they were up to.  Its like my subconscious was looking for reasons for me to suck---Oh Look Christine this justify's you're a crappy consultant.   I would also see these other consultants how they'd interact with others on Facebook vs myself.  I'd like/comment on their posts and would find it upsetting how I would get no response in return although they'd make efforts with others.  I felt like I wasn't good enough for them to talk to and that people only wanted to be friends with those who could benefit them or their biz somehow.  I'd also heard some unkind things sadly some other consultants had said about some other consultants and their numbers and demoting from Director to Superstar Consultant and had even been told in past by other consultants that they didn't care what I had to say because I wasn't a Superstar Director in 3 months.  I was afraid and embarrassed to tell anyone about what I was dealing with for fear of criticism and being looked down on.  All this just compounded my feelings of shame and guilt.  So I unfriended most people from Scentsy on Facebook including Heidi and Orville the owners.  Heidi and Orville's pages people are constantly posting their successes so it was like the mother ship of triggers for me.  I only kept a handful of people besides my team.  Even those handful I had to turn off their feeds because I'd find it so upsetting.  

I also took a break from events because obviously how on earth could I cope with being around these people in real life if I couldn't handle even their cat pics on Facebook.  My Health was an additional reason plus financial ones why I stepped back.   I had been using credit cards to pay for these events because I was so broke and felt like if I didn't go I'd be failing somehow.  Even the incentive trips although they were free I was using credit cards to have enough clothes to go.  When I earned the Mediterranean Cruise my clothes situation was dire.  I owned two Scentsy T-shirts and one pair of trousers that's it.  I ended up spending over £200 on shopping on a credit card just so I could have clothes that weren't super hot for the Mediterranean Sea.  I needed a dress for a special dinner and a swimsuit too--again credit card.   Plus my partner and I didn't even have money for the Gatwick/Heathrow Express to get to the airport or spending money.  When I earned Cancun I was secretly given £100 by another consultant because I didn't have enough spending money for myself to go and do the excursions I wanted (or any excursions really).  That trip was one of my best trips ever as I managed to get out and see Coba and Chichen Itza and would have never had that experience except for the kindness of another consultant.  So I went into debt for a lot of things with Scentsy.   My partner and I at the time made a decision that we would be paying off over £15k in credit card debt in addition to getting our health sorted.  So I told myself that I wouldn't be going to any further events until I could pay for them in cash no matter how long it took.

In 2 years we've paid all but 1.5k off of the 15k in credit card debt by working very hard and yes my Scentsy commissions have helped whittle this number down.  Finances are getting better by the day.  We started working very hard on our health and eating and within 4-5 months I was off the CPAP machine because I had lost enough weight.  My plantar fasciitis and other things were starting to disappear too. I realised very quickly that I had an eating disorder---sugar addiction, binge eating and that would need to treat this like a proper addiction and do the work to heal this.  I had been working in another 12 steps program and upped my work on the steps with this and ended up finding a lot of healing.  I attend/attended Overeaters Anonymous and Underearners Anonymous meetings to work on my relationship with money and food. With the 12 steps--especially some of the steps regarding resentments and forgiveness I managed to let go of a lot of stuff I was feeling about Scentsy that felt like a tonne of bricks had been lifted.    I read non stop self help books, listened to audio books, podcasts, Oprah super soul sunday---anything I could get my hands on for my spirit in addition to 12 step meetings.  I also upped my service quite a bit in the community.  I started volunteering at the local food bank and soup kitchen every month.  The volunteering was one of my most powerful things to help heal the hurt I was feeling in my heart.  Getting outside of all my thoughts and seeing how bad others have it really helped shift my perspective on how blessed I truly was.  No matter how low you feel there is always someone who has it worse off. 

The eating hasn't been easy.  I went from binge eating most days to maybe once or twice a month.  Its getting more rare though and improving daily and I know one day soon I will be sober with eating.  I started running again and started a challenge set by Mark Zuckerburg for 365 miles for the year and currently on 130 miles so far.  I used to be an avid runner before loads of stuff hit both my partner and I that was really hard to pick ourselves up from.   James my partner and I try to eat a mostly plant based diet with the odd treat like a pizza or something and sometimes meat.  I've had to learn how to be good with sugar as its a big trigger for me.  I've signed up for a half marathon in October and running about 12-15 miles a week.  At the end of May James and I did our first 10k and had our personal best time (click to read and see how I look now).  What made this race even more special was the fact that in January 2017 James had a brain aneurysm and nearly died.  For him to be doing a 10k 5 months was a big blessing and a real testament to prayer.  

I went to the doctors a month or two back and got a health check and blood tests and I've managed to reverse my numbers all bar one.  So no more borderline high trigyclerides, borderline pre-diabetes, etc, etc.  My depression and anxiety spells are getting few and far between especially with exercise and meditation and the more weight I lose.  I have gone down nearly two sizes in clothes since the Tenerife picture and feel so much more joyful on the inside which is showing in my outside me.  We've started gratitude journals and try very hard to focus on what's going good rather than what's bad.  Things aren't perfect but we have made huge strides.  My partner James joined this health journey with me and he's gone from 72 pills a day to one and looking to be discharged from the diabetes unit as he's reversed his Type 2 diabetes.   Service, Working on Your spirit, Forgiveness, Plant Based Food, Meditation, Prayer and Exercise will completely change your life in every way.  We still have our days when we get off track or get overwhelmed or depressed or discouraged but we keep trying to pick ourselves back up every time and start again.  That's all you can do is just keep picking yourself up and pressing restart and hopefully in becomes less and less that you have to start again.

I havent earned an incentive since Tenerife but I know that there's a reason for everything and the universe was forcing me to focus on myself for a little while.  My Scentsy team is the smallest its been but I'm learning to embrace it and be grateful for each and every person.  You have to embrace where you're at before you can move forward.  So many people tell you that you must be very careful about what image you want to portray to potential teamies and customers as people want the image, the perfect life, the perfect team leader who will help them get to Director in 2 months.  So I wasnt sure about sharing all this really as it could put someone off from joining my team--blah blah.    I did try that for the longest time to portray the perfect image and I felt like I was being fake and very inauthentic.  Although I wont completely blast you with all my woes and worries all the time as there's obviously a balance I think being honest helps others know that its ok to be imperfect especially in their Scentsy journey.  This isn't easy to run your own business and its ok to screw up, its ok to not be one of those that hits Director in 2 months.  I had to teach myself that my self esteem wasn't dependent on what numbers, titles and trips I was getting.  When I started working on the inside and out and building self esteem it helped an awful lot with this.  Working on yourself is HUGE for this, really huge.  So many people look to external stuff to fix their problems and the only thing that will fix what you are coping with is going inside.  I heard Oprah say once that Fix your Insides and your outsides will follow---which I can sure testify to this as its been happening with me!!! 

I went to my first event this year---World Premiere in Feb 2017.  I wasnt able to stay for the whole time but it was a huge step for me to even be there.  I look forward to being able to get to more events.  I've started refriending some Scentsy leaders and even Heidi and Orville on Facebook that I know would be supportive of me and have actually been able to look at incentive trip photos of others without bursting into tears.  AH.....what mind, body, spirit work will do for you.  I know that its just a matter of time before I get back up to Director and am earning incentive trips again.  These are only a very small part of my journey really.   I'm a much better leader and have a level of compassion and resilience that many dont who have quickly risen to the top.  Who I'm becoming is a very strong leader and someone who truly understands about lifting themselves up out of very hard things. 

This is just the beginning of my journey really...I have so much still to go with my Scentsy Biz and my health but have come so far.  Its one reason why I started this Life your Best Life hashtag and section of my website because of how intertwined improving your overall life is with success in Scentsy and even the products really---I mean Scentsy is all about bringing relaxation and peace to  your house and I want to make this even bigger with making your life as best as you can. .  Please know that its never too late to turn things around with your life, your biz, your health----anything.  My partner and I are testaments to that.  Be sure to subscribe to the blog or follow me on Facebook to keep up on our journey!!

Christine xoxoox


 

First 10k Run in 6 years.

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We finished our first 10k in 6 years at the end of May 2017 (Vitality 10k).  We used to be quite active runners and finished the London Marathon in 2011 but then my partner James got very sick and its taken us six years to climb out of a very big hole.  I've lost over 30lbs and counting within the last year and have been running quite a bit.  I'm signed up for a half marathon around the Royal Parks this autumn and this 10k was a bit of a training run for it.  James and I had a personal best for time on the day and James managed to raise almost £600 for the brain trauma injury Headway.  Its quite an accomplishment he was able to run with me as in January 2017 he had a brain aneurysm and nearly died.  Doctors told him that if we had got to the hospital 30 minutes later his outcome would have been very different.  He had to have emergency brain surgery and it was a very risky procedure as the brain hemorrhage he had was near the stem of his brain.  The doctor said there was 70% chance that he wouldn't make it through the surgery.  Most people don't return to work even in the first 6 months of a brain aneurysm, but James has returned to work and not only that was back running in 2 months.  Really can testify to the power of prayer for sure---that and healthy eating and working very hard on your spirits and working slowly on your physical fitness.  So it was a glorious day and felt good to get another medal under my belt after so long and to do this with James as we have been so lucky to have him here after everything he's been through. 

Anything is possible no matter what struggles you've had and we both are a testament to that and especially James.  Getting strong again on the outside helps our inside us and vice versa.  When you start feeling better everything starts lining up in every possible way. 

Want to start documenting more of our health journey and story with you.  Scentsy is a tool to feel better by adding gorgeous fragrance to your home....I want to share with you guys how I'm feeling better in my whole life and hopefully inspire you.  So keep a watch out for future posts for sure!

Christine x

How to Live Your Best Life

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I started the hashtag #LiveYourBestLife with many of my posts because I wanted to do something beyond just slinging wax.  I wanted to make a difference.  I wanted to make this Scentsy site different to all the other bazillions of consultants you will come across and not just write about Scentsy.  I feel like people buy Scentsy to feel better anyway so why not extend that into making people feel better in every avenue of their life.  I'm not perfect with this so if you're thinking that I've suddenly found the holy grail of happiness you'll be disappointed.  I'm in a journey of my own to feel better and to do better and live better so I'm just going to share what I learn along the way with my own joys and struggles.   If you want the Scentsy and direct sales or training stuff you can go to Scentsy News and read there.

I've had a think about some of the ways that I've seen/read and what makes me happy. 

1- Focus on the gratitude:  Oprah says all the time whatever you focus on increases and I know this to be true.  Its so easy to get overwhelmed with what's going wrong in our lives but if you focus on what's going right you'll notice a huge shift in your life.  Its hard to explain how this works but I challenge you to start a gratitude journal for just 2 weeks and see what difference it makes in your overall well being.

2-Meditation:  Find time to do this every day.  It teaches your brain and your spirit how to be more mindful and present.

3-Do something that scares you everyday:  Book a trip to a place you've never been, go kayaking, take a dance class, go to a networking event.  Usually things on the other side of fear are our biggest blessings and will push us and help us become the people we are meant to be.

4- Take Care of your Body:   How well you treat your physical body affects your abilities and mood and spirit greatly.  Eat good food, Exercise, floss, do things that keep you moving!

5-Forgive yourself and Forgive Others:  Let go of past resentments, make amends to those that you have done harm to.  Stop beating yourself up for things that have passed.  Stop beating yourself up in general and refer to step 1 as we believe what we constantly tell ourselves.

6- Service:    Its impossible to not have a life of joy when you focus on serving others.  Find ways to serve especially if you are a business.  Dont just focus on the sales, focus on making a better world for people.  Most people think that they cant make a difference but you can.  Share your story with others and use it to lift and help someone.  We are here to help each other. 

7-Do something you love every day:   If this can be your job then great if not then do something small for yourself that makes you giddy with joy.  For me its photography on my Instagram:  @cmjolley but I also love the theatre, art galleries and museums.  Life is too short for you to not do things that make you happy.

8-Believe in yourself:   One thing that I can tell you from experience is that a lot of problems come when you doubt your abilities and think that you are not enough.  Change this and you will make great strides in changing your life.   You can change it by mantras every day telling yourself that you are worth it and eventually your subconscious will start believing it.

9- Surround yourself with good people:  Do not listen to the naysayers or those who doubt you.  I did too much of this in my life I really did.  I believed people who told me that I would never succeed at Scentsy and other consultants who told me that they were better than me.  Trust your own voice and only keep those around you that tell you to aim high and who root for you and your success and who consistently root for your success. 

10- Be mindful of your money:  If you are a Scentsy Consultant reinvest your money back into your business.  Have a 6 month emergency supply for bills.  Keep good books, pay your taxes.  Write a list of priorities.  Be mindful of what you are spending things on, Find ways to reduce your bills.

12- Dont compare yourself to others:  This is one I've struggled badly with especially in my Scentsy Journey but if I can attest nothing will hold you back more when you start looking at y our journey and thinking you are less than because of their successes.  Keep your eyes on your own road and you will find your own voice too.  Its a distraction to keep looking at what others are doing. 

So do you think I've missed anything?  Let me know in the comments below. 

 

Struggling? Something for your Heart.

Are you struggling and having a hard time?  I've got some words of encouragement for you. 

Life is naturally full of struggles and challenges but getting through these sometimes can be difficult.  I've had my own share of struggles that haven't been easy but you learn and you do better and you keep picking yourself up.   Some of the wisdom I've gained through these experiences I want to pass on to you and help make things a little bit easier.

1)  Its OK to feel your feelings:  We may think we shouldn't be feeling what we should be feeling.  Why am I depressed?  I should be Happy!  Feelings can be overwhelming but I want to say that its ok.  Its ok to feel not great.  We aren't meant to feel completely happy all the time.   Embracing these feelings are the first start to getting through this.  If you dont work through it, those emotions get buried in and it can make things a lot worse long term.

2) Do Healthy things to feel better:  There's a lot of unhealthy things out there to numb your feelings like drugs, alcohol, TV.  Obviously that will make things a lot worse so doing healthy things to make you feel better will help nourish your spirit.  Some of the things that I do for my heart is I try to meditate twice a day, Exercise helps an awful lot, chamomile tea is my favourite and I love going to the local park that's near by and being in nature. 

3)  You arent your thoughts:  Your head will lie to you.  Always remember this and it will change your life.  Start Changing the beliefs about yourself at your core.  A lot of problems in life come because we feel that we arent enough.  You cant just throw all this external stuff and self help books at your life and expect to change overnight.  You will have to start loving yourself, telling yourself every single day that you are worth it and that you are enough.  I do this whilst running and its great to do whilst you're beating the pavement, listening to your favourite girl power music.  With mantras you may not believe them at first but eventually if you tell yourself long enough that you are kick ass you will KNOW that you are kick ass...because you are!

4)  Cultivate a heart of gratitude:  Its impossible to feelhorrible at the same time that you are feeling grateful.  In the video and in the comments below I've mentioned an exercise that Tony Robbins teaches that uses this and will help you feel better in less than 10 minutes.   If you're having a hard time with the gratitude think of things that you are holding on to, resentments and anger or guilt from the past and let these go.  When we scrub our spirits down and get rid of the things that dont serve us we open our heart to so much joy.  Whatever you focus on will increase so make sure its the good stuff!

Be gentle with yourself guys and know that you are worth it!

Christine x

Enjoy the Moment

Some happy thoughts for y'all. :) #liveYourBestLife

Posted by Christine Jolley on Friday, February 5, 2016

Life is too short to not enjoy the moment.  I think people are constantly rushing around, constantly looking at their devices and its draining.  You end up just barely getting through the day and wondering where the week went and then those weeks turn into months, then years.  You then live a life full of should of, could of and lots of regrets.   People are trying to cram MORE into their days when what we should be doing is less.   When you create space that's where inspiration has room to flood into your life, you can be in the present moment and where there's so much more joy.   At the end of your life do you want to look back and say you lived a joyful life or would you rather work 80 hrs a week to earn money but never have any time to enjoy your hard work? 

How can you listen to your gut and what the universe may have in store for you if you're too busy to listen?  Its a bit cliche but really stop and smell the roses.  Love yourself enough to slow down and to embrace every moment.  Focus on the good in your life and that will increase.  Trust that when you do all you can on your end and when you then let Go and let God/The Universe do the rest....The universe will rise up to meet you!!! 

Borough Market

Saturday mornings usually involve for me a trip to Borough Market here in London.  I go to a meeting at Southwark Cathedral to refill my spiritual bucket and then I wander round and see all the bright and happy colours of the fruits and veggies and smells from the street vendors in the market.  I love the energy of the place and I always leave feeling recharged and ready for the new week.  What things do you do each week that make you feel happy? Would love to hear in the comments below.

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Borough Market

Wandering the Southbank

This weekend James was gone and so I went out and did a bit of a photo walk around Southbank Centre here in London.  There was a 'Love Festival' on and they had converted a good portion next to the Thames into a beach complete with sand and lounge chairs.  Southbank has a great vibe to it, there's booksellers, music, good food and some cultural hotspots like the Southbank Centre, National Theatre.  It tends to be very busy with tourists because the London Eye is nearby as well as London Dungeon and within walking distance to/great views Big Ben.  It reminds me quite a lot of Paris and walking next to the Seine and the Romanticism of it.  I wandered round and had some street food before I then headed to Covent Garden to get my hair cut.  Southbank is always changing that's for sure and I find it a bit of fun to pop by every now and then.

Anyway....Here are some pictures I took.  I posted some pictures on my instagram which you can see  here as well.

 

Big Ben

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Take a Moment

Take a moment out of your day to do absolutely nothing. Breathe deeply. Appreciate the little things. Be grateful for the simple joy of being alive.